Dear Plutonians,
So I'm sitting here in a coffee shop and feeling a bucket of pain. See, the human mating ritual is very complex. Both sides opt for the best mate that their genetic material can attract. A lot of lip service is given to various attributes, but it always comes down to physical appearance, and then maybe intelligence.
The difficult part is all the game playing. People are hesitant to say, "You are a nice person, but I'm not physically or mentally attracted to you." It would be nicer if people would say that, but the other party is often strung along for various reasons. Perhaps the guy or girl likes other attributes about this person, or they are meeting some other needs, or maybe a person just doesn't want to be alone.
The person with the unequal feelings is trapped because they really love that person and are always hoping the individual will change his or her mind. Yes, it happens, but rarely. So, feelings are dragged over the coals and the "friendship" continues on.
Both parties can minimize impact with open and honest communication, but Party A may need that person or may be afraid to hurt their feelings.
These relationships are typically where the girl wants a friendship with a guy (it rarely works) and the guy wants a full relationship (aka sex). Sorry, dude, you ain't gonna get it. The best strategy is to be friendly, respectful, but gradually move on. Don't get angry at the other person because no one can help how they feel. But, again, it's best to move on.
So, my friends on the Ice Planet, that is my pointless rambling for today.
God bless.
